Look for the Helpers

One of the things about traumatic events is that we don’t know what we don’t know. We don’t know until afterwards that we should have asked for help in this area or that area. We don’t know until afterwards that a grocery run would have been more helpful than a meal. We don’t know until afterwards that we should have designated an emcee to get information out and coordinate the helpers helping the helpers help the helper.  We don’t know that every text becomes a lifeline back to normalcy. We don’t know, we don’t know, we don’t know. We often don’t even know what we’ll want. Here are some things I noticed that would have been helpful if I had known them at the time, along with encouragements divided into Maid, Matron, and Crone.