The struggle you face, single homemakers, is buying in. You have to buy in that beauty, coziness, and order are important. They’re not some far-off thing you’ll do when God blesses you with a family. They’re something you need to do right now. Nourish yourself so you can nourish others! Build a home now so that you can welcome people in permanently or just for the evening. This space that you own or rent is yours to play with, and by playing with it, you can learn how to help the homemakers around you. If you have practiced creating beauty, you can join the conversation about how to decorate. If you have practiced making a space cozy, you can help others make their space cozy. If you have created order, you can help others be organized. Doing these things in your home for yourself will help you be a sturdier woman. Beauty, coziness, and order are a calm, albeit finite, refuge from the Lord. Don’t neglect them just because it’s only you.

When you’re home alone, it’s easy to ask yourself, or feel the discouraging question of, “What is even the point?” No one is there to care if you eat cold pizza or that whole bag of tortilla chips, or if you pour that extra glass of wine, or if you even made your bed. It’s easy to become disenchanted with homemaking when you’re only expressing self-love, not husband-love, or children-love with your work. I get it. I 100% get it. And I’m here to tell you that the domestic arts and all they entail are important.  

When you get to know people, you start to learn about needs. This is where you plug in and become part of the knitting circle yourself.